Understanding
Posted on: July 23, 2008
I’m not talking about understanding in its practical meanings where you get what your lecturer says after reviewing notes and tutorials within 2 days reading week or you reach the right place after reading the map whole day but rather to what extent you feel the way people understand something.
It isn’t easy to listen to someone and the more difficult to understand the person. Different individuals, different styles, different thoughts, different attitudes and you also possess a perpetually different self from others. In order to understand someone other than yourself, you have no other way but to alter/adjust your perceptions to be able to be in their shoes and flow with their thoughts. You might get lost sometimes due to their random speed or weird moving directions, but as long as you’re persevered and heartful enough, you might get the ultimate rhythm. That’s when you understand.
I’m not generous enough to follow everyone’s thoughts, not that everyone wants me as a listener anyway. However, I did/do/will make efforts to those need it truthfully and know how to appreciate my efforts. Too bad, sometimes no matter how much you try, others do not recognize it, or even worse, negate everything. Some just tend to take for granted what they have, only to regret once they’ve lost/stolen/gone.
Even a psychiatrist can not perfectly listen to his patients without misunderstanding since after all, each individual forms a unique structure that no one is able to navigate every corners. Therefore, I would be grateful and appreciative enough when somebody is willing to listen to my stories, putting in his most efforts to understand, though he might left out some details at times. It would be the best if he manages to read through my desires and thoughts but practically, highly unlikely the case. The fact that the person bothers to listen and bear with you times after times shows how much he cares for and concerns about you. And the fact that he tries persistantly to grasp your feelings indicates his love for you.
Isn’t it more than enough for a meaningful life?
Want to write more but my mind is too messy to arrange emotional thoughts. Leave it to the wind then.
For memory's sake 
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