How do we react to negative comments?
Posted on: November 9, 2008
Human is a defensive creature, we tend to twist the fact in favor of ourselves and not to give bad impression. These are some common strategies:
-Motivation: work harder for an alternative result to change the negative feedback.
-Disregard: seek for confirming comments to discount the disconfirming ones.
-Twisting: prove that the previous evaluation was wrong.
-Disassociation: it is not my product! and publicly tell that.
-Association: attach the outcome with preferred traits and values or link us to successful/high status groups.
-Devalue: convince the world that the outcome is of no importance.
-Avoidance: hide or run away from any opportunities to receive any further feedback.
-Reducing others’ status: attempting to show that others(especially those caused dissonance) are inferiors to ourselves.
-Irreponsible: the outcomes are due to inevitable external forces outside our control and awareness and should not be attributed to our personalities.
We are smart to cook excuses to turn reality into different dishes. Life is great!
For memory's sake 
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